The Contact Decision Map

Turn an urge into
a private plan.

Answer six questions. The map explains the reasoning behind its suggested next step. It does not send, store, or share your answers.

On-device worksheet

Make the next step smaller.

Choose the answer that is most honest today. You can change your mind later.

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1. What is the real purpose of contact?

Choose the purpose that would still be true if the other person replied briefly.

2. How settled do you feel right now?
3. What do you know about whether contact is welcome?
4. Is there any safety concern?
5. If there is no reply, could you still respect your choice?
6. Is there a genuine time-sensitive deadline?
Your private plan

Plan

Suggested next step

Boundary to keep

Three things to do before revisiting the decision

    What you selected

    Your primary purpose: . This is not a score or diagnosis. It is a reminder that the same message can mean different things depending on purpose, permission, safety, and your capacity for any response.

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